What are some of the darker aspects of Indian society?

印度社会有哪些阴暗面？

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Chhavi Agwekar

I had a professor a few years ago who was expecting. One day she scolded a computer operator from the department for some delay in work. As soon as she left, the computer operator (V), obviously furious turned to me and said,

“I hope she delivers a baby girl”.

I was shocked. V was an educated and independent girl, and yet was treating birth of a girl like some curse. She then continued,

“She already has a daughter, having a second one will take her false pride down”.

几年前我有个教授怀孕了。有一天，她批评了部门里一个电脑操作员，说他耽误了工作。她一走，电脑操作员V就生气地转头跟我说：

“我希望她生个女孩”。

我很震惊。V是一个受过教育、独立自主的女孩，但却把生女孩当作一种诅咒。她接着说：

”教授已经有一个女儿了，再生一个女儿，她就不会这么狂妄了。”

Thankfully, my professor was least bothered about the baby's gender.

My professor later had a boy and called us for the customary naming ceremony. There I overheard people saying that because it's a boy, they threw us a party, else there was no reason to celebrate.

I was disturbed because all these were educated people, many of them doctors themselves.

幸运的是，我的教授对孩子的性别并不在意。

我的教授后来生了一个男孩，她邀请我们参加起名仪式。仪式上我无意中听到有人说，教授是因为生了个男孩，才会举办这个派对，不然她没有理由庆祝。

我感到惶惶不安，这些人都是受过教育的人，很多人本身就是医生。

No matter how advanced we get, the birth of a girl child will always be a cause for disdain in Indian society, I understood that day.

This makes me sad.

Yes India is changing. I just stated a few facts. One of the harsh observations: people are generally happy if they have one female offspring. How many of us have seen people wanting a second girl child?

从那一天起我明白了，无论我们有多进步，在印度社会，生女孩永远是一件叫人瞧不起的事情。

这一点让我非常难过。

没错，印度正在改变。我只是陈述了一些事实而已。有一个丑陋的事实是，如果有一名女性后代，人们往往很高兴。但我们中有多少人希望养育第二个女孩？

Secondly, I don't mean to say girls are better or superior than boys. All genders are equal. If the birth of a girl is appreciated then birth of a boy should be appreciated too. Regarding ancient practices declaring a male as protector hence the preferred gender, people should be shown that even at that time, a female was needed, for the thankless job of running the household.

For the practice of dowry, I sincerely feel that the day all girls’ families unite and refuse proposals who demand dowry, it will be the end of the evil practice itself.

其次，我并不是说女孩就比男孩更好或更优秀。男女是平等的。如果生女孩受到祝福，那么生男孩也应该受到祝福。古时候把男性视为保护者，所以大家更喜欢男孩，就算在那个时候，人们也应该明白，他们也需要女孩，女孩才能承担费力不讨好的家务活。

至于嫁妆，我真心希望所有女孩家庭团结起来，拒绝索要嫁妆的求婚，到那个时候，这些恶俗之事自然就终结了。

Akshay

You know an uncle who made you feel ‘special’. You know chocolate…wasn't the only thing he offered to you back then.

Years passed, you grew up.

Now, you can beat the hell out of him. Tear him to pieces even. Your distress warrants you to shout at top of your voice. Every. Single. Time.

Yet, you neither Speak up nor Confront.

Ever.

As somewhere these words still echo,

‘Respect your elders.’

你认识了一个让你觉得“很特别”的叔叔。你也记得，那时候他给你的可不只有巧克力。

很多年过去了，你也长大了。

现在，你可以把他打个半死。把他撕成碎片。你的痛苦让你尖叫颤抖。

但你既没有说话，也没有反抗。

从来没有。

这些话仍在某处回响，

“尊重你的长辈。”

Neil Pradhan

Nobody helps each other everybody does the most easiest job of criticizing.

From our politicians to everbody just love to criticize for no reason.

The only way to improve this country is stop criticizing and start extending support in whatever way possible.

印度人不愿互相帮助，每个人都喜欢最轻松的工作—批判指责。

从我们的政客到每个印度平民，所有人都喜欢毫无根据地指责别人。

想让印度发展进步，唯一的办法就是别再批评别人了，多为他们提供支持和帮助吧。

Deepanshu Panjwani

Some dark aspects I have experienced that are very prevalent in Indian society are :

我经历过的印度社会一些非常普遍的阴暗面有：

Marriage - Darkest of all. This darkness knows no boundaries with both men and women are bound to this. You can live alone happily - live your dreams, chase new ones, if you feel alone you can always get a pet and no extra responsibilities. It's my personal opinion that it is not that necessary to get married. But thanks to this society's “You do have some complications or you are impotent that's why you are bachelor” thinking.

婚姻—这是最黑暗的。男人和女人都被婚姻牢牢束缚着。你可以快乐地独自生活—实现你的梦想，追逐新的梦想，如果你觉得孤独，可以养一只宠物，无需承担其他责任。这是我个人的观点，婚姻并不是人生必修课。但印度社会总觉得“你肯定有病，你是不是阳痿，不然你也不会单身”。

Free Consent - Yes the basic consent, my friend's 21 year old sis was getting married without her knowledge only. When she came to light about this fact she argued like hell. Still nothing positive came as an aftermath. She then took a blade and kept on her Wrist and warned them if they go any further on this matter she will draw the whole line with blade. After hearing all of this I was shocked completely as how come you don't ask or take her consent for her marriage. Why ? She is the one who will spend her life so the ultimate control and consent must be hers.

无需征求意见—是的，我指的是最基本的知情权，我朋友21岁的妹妹在毫不知情的情况下结婚了。当她发现时，她拼命反抗，但没有什么用。她抓起一把刀架在手腕上，警告他们，如果他们一意孤行，她就不活了。我听闻后震惊了，为什么不能征求她的同意呢，这毕竟是她的婚姻。为什么呢？事关她的一辈子，当然必须由她做决定，征求她的同意呀！

Black and White - This discrimination has gone beyond worst in this century. Fair is positive, dark is negative - the unfathomable mentality. The bitter truth is Dowry connection with this, if your daughter is fair dowry will be around 10–20 lakhs but if she's dark skinned then it will go around 30–40lakhs plus 4 wheeler and etc. This figure is for upper middle class families. Subtract 10 for lower middle class. But dowry is eternal you have to give chunk of money to the groom department.

肤色歧视—这种歧视在本世纪达到了顶峰。肤色白就是好的，肤色黑就是不好的—这种心态真是难以理解。让人难以接受的是，如果你的女儿肤色白，嫁妆100-200万就够了，但如果你女儿肤色黑，那么嫁妆就必须达到300 - 400万，外加汽车等等。这个数字是针对中上阶层家庭的。下层中产阶级可以在上述标准上减去100万。但是嫁妆是屡禁不止的，新娘家必须给新郎一大笔钱。

Smit Prakash

Indian Education System

印度的教育体系

Our mentality- Here in India, we run behind marks only, not behind knowledge.

我们的心态—在印度，我们追求的只是分数，而非知识。

Profit oriented approach by Parents- Sorry to say, but Parents only want their children to study, so that he/she would be able to earn money. No one is thinking about the responsibility which comes with education. We can take the example of Subhash Chandra Bose, who left the job of IAS for his responsibility.

父母只看重收益的教育方式：印度父母让孩子学习，只是为了他/她以后能赚钱。没有人考虑随着教育而来的责任。钱德拉博塞就为了自己的责任感离开了放弃了印度科学研究会的工作。

Less Salary of Teacher- Here i am mentioning the salary of Teacher at higher level, not on village level. Today not a single good student want to be a teacher.

教师的工资太低—我说的是高级教师的工资，不是村级教师的工资。现在好学生都不想当老师。

Profit oriented approach by Private institutes- Today private institute only want to earn money, so they don’t want to invest in students. The result is in front of us.

私立学校一心只想赚钱—现在的私立学校只想赚钱，所以不愿意为学生花钱。所以结果就摆在我们面前。

Lack of vision in us - We are only focusing on money and good life. The result is in front of us.

我们缺乏远见——我们只关注金钱和美好的生活。结果就在眼前。

Want to achieve Everything in sort time through shortcut - It results in moving our concentration from hard work to unnecessary means.

只想走捷径—这会导致我们把注意力从努力工作转移到无谓的手段上。

We need a revolution to Overcome this situation. It can take some time, but it is possible.   

我们需要一场变革来打破这种局面。这可能需要耗费一些时间，但很有希望。

Sanchit Kansal

Indian society is anti progress and rather believes in criticism more than anything.

印度社会无意发展进步，他们热衷于批评指责，胜过其他一切。

One can easily see people criticising government on every aspect while roaming on road. They like to complain. They find faults in schemes like digitisation too.

我们经常看到人们一边在路边闲逛，一边对政府的方方面面评头论足。他们喜欢抱怨。他们觉得数字化等计划也不完美，很有问题。

People talk of corruption free India but whenever they get a chance of getting bribe from any source they are found to be standing first in the line.

人们总说印度不要腐败，但只要他们有机会通过任何渠道受贿，他们就都争先恐后。

Many IES aspirants start preparations with one goal of serving the country and doing social good but after selection they just follow their predecessors.

许多有抱负的人怀着为国家服务、为社会做贡献的初心开始工作，但被选中后，他们就随波逐流，有样学样了。

It is believed that Education is the only solution of all menaces in our country but the educated lot is the biggest fool in our country. They are also doing such things which are not supposed to be done by the illiterates.

人们认为教育是解决印度所有威胁的唯一办法，但在印度，受过教育的人是最大的傻瓜。

Jay Malkar

Apart from patriarchy and other pointless things, indian society is wired to follow many administered believes without ever questioning whether it is the believe they want to believe in. Here are some them i realised in course of time.

除了父权制和其他毫无意义的东西外，印度社会天生就遵循许多信仰，印度人从来没有质疑过这是否是他们想要相信的信仰。以下是我逐步意识到的一些问题。

Marriage=have to have kids!

I get it, the only expectation mother nature have from us is to reproduce but aren't we are on verge to be the most populated country in the world. Let alone population control issue, we still see every part of Indian society suggesting to give birth to a baby as soon as two individuals get married, without questioning themselves whether they really want kids or not. Mostly they would just go ahead with the suggestion cast by the society around them.

结婚就意味着必须要有孩子！

我明白，大自然对我们唯一的期望就是繁衍后代，但我们不是已经快要成为世界上人口最多的国家了吗？更不用说人口控制的问题了，我们至今仍看到印度社会各界都希望一对夫妇结婚后就马上生育孩子，从不会问这对夫妇是不是真的想要孩子。大多数情况下，他们只是按照周围人的意见行事。

It is worst for those who can't give birth to a baby as they are biologically incapable. I mean though they could be progressing well mannered civilian contributing equal or more to society, but they would be still lectured and sometime taunted for not being able to conceive a baby. And lets just not talk about how much hard time Homosexual people(male & female) have on such note.

对于那些不能生育的人而言，情况就很棘手了，因为他们在生物学上没有生育能力。我的意思是，虽然他们也许彬彬有礼，对社会做出了同样甚至更多的贡献，但他们依然会受到指摘，有时还会因为不能怀孕而遭人嘲笑。至于同性恋者(不管男女)在这方面有多艰难，我们就先不讨论了。

Sex: have it, but don't talk about it!

You know the script about Kamasutra so lets not make the answer more lengthy! Since teenage we are banished to not talk about sex but eventually expected to understand everything about it. We are also expected to practice with control and doing it too frequently would put you in 'lets judge him/her' corner and lable them Horny and immoral! And do i have to mention about patriarchy in both genders as an individual having more sex is slut and male achieve their stud tag by hum cardboard box!

性：可以有，但绝不能提！

你听说过《爱经》吧，所以我们长话短说就好！从青少年时期起，我们就不能谈论性这个话题，但却又指望我们搞清有关性的一切。我们还必须练习克制欲望，如果太频繁，你就会被人评头论足，被贴上淫荡下流和伤风败俗的标签！

Getting married in same cast and religion is always great!

Such idiots clearly never attended lecture of genetic diversity and how to attend it. And beside this biological logic, marrying a person you believing in irrespective of their social differences would never make sense to them!

同种姓和同宗教之间的联姻才是好的！

这些白痴显然从来没有参加过关于基因多样性的讲座，也不知道如何才能参加讲座。除了这种生物学逻辑之外，对他们来说，不顾及双方社会差异，只想和一个你信赖的人结婚，这种想法是不明智的！

Being flag bearer of Indian Culture!

And what other thing that doens't make sense to society, person can have their set of believe, ideology and interpretation of life from eachother's perspectives! They clearly loose their point when someone say XY thing is best and everyone should be following it!

成为印度文化的旗手！

人人都可以从自己的角度拥有自己的信仰、意识形态和对生活的理解！如果有人说XY的东西最好，大家都必须遵从，这肯定是站不住脚的！