How do I get an extremely beautiful wife in arranged marriage?
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Amitesh Gita Singh, Being practical and accepting the harsh reality
This answer may hurt someone's sentiments and it may look like offensive. I apologize for that in advance. It is not my intention to hurt someone's personal feelings. If you want to avoid reading this answer, it is up to you. This is harsh reality of current Indian society.
So the question is : How do I get a beautiful wife in arranged marriage?
In ideal situation, it completely depends upon Guy's inner soul, his behavior, respect towards girls and what his personality speaks. A girl only wants honesty, loyalty, respect in her man and believe me she never bothers about his wealth and property.
These types of girls are called as ‘Imaginary Girls' who are found in every corner of earth but sadly earth is round.
Please don't find this offensive and don't judge me on the basis of what I'm writing here.
Now coming to harsh reality, very few care about how you look and what your soul reflects. Honesty, loyalty, care, true love all these look good in text books and as facebook status only. Reality is far different than this. If you want to marry a beautiful girl, just be rich or your educational qualification must be very high though it’s weightage is quite low. One more solution is, hold a high post in your organization. It would also help you to get a beautiful girl.
I am not saying that all rich people have beautiful wife but being rich will maxmize the chances of getting beautiful girl.
Now a days, most of them are like, ‘Money can't buy happiness but it is better to cry in a Ferrari’.
Actually this is not only their fault. This mentality is inherited from our Indian culture. Just think a bit, What would father of a girl prefer while looking for a groom for his daughter. The first obvious thing would be his bank statement and his stability. Then after other things are taken into account. Now one more thing, usually girls choose their boyfriends from their age group only but when it comes to marriage, they are ready to get engaged with a person who is 6 to 10 years older, whom they once called 'Uncle' or 'Sir'. Because being in a relationship is not a matter of future plan. And if you would ask me if it is just for time pass, Yes it is!
What exactly I am trying to say:
The above facts do not apply to every girl but majority of them are following this path. Still there are millions of them who favor man over ATM machine. If girls feel bad when guys look for beauty only then we also feel bad when you consider our money. Yes, money should be there but it should not be the only thing. And that is the point of this talk.
Apoorva Gupta, PGDM from T A Pai Management Institute, Manipal (2012)
I think to get an extremely beautiful girl in an arranged marriage, you need to fulfill any one of the following criteria:
On matrimonial site: Send requests to girls only whom you find beautiful as per your beauty standards.
You should have the qualities she is looking for: Rich, Handsome, wealthy family etc., so that both of you can at least materialistically match each other and fulfill each other’s expectations.
You too need to be extremely good looking so that you both compliment really well and probably that’s the most important deciding criteria for her as well for marriage.
She isn’t shallow to be drawn to someone just by the looks and she looks further : Personality and Confidence, Attitude towards life , You make her laugh, She can be herself with you.
If she knows you chose her not only because of her looks but because of the person she is and you can convince her about that.
Advertise you wealth in the matrimonial profile you prepare and also state clearly that you are looking for a beautiful girl like many do in India.
All the best and I hope you find a beautiful girl, but I pray that you both can connect as well as that’s what marriage is all about(Having a Trophy wife might not make you happy for long).
Hussain Shaherwala, Marriage is the most beautiful thing.
Please do not be offended if I say that I find a lot of immaturity in your question.
How do I get a beautiful wife in arranged marraige?
Beauty lies within a person. A person can be very good looking but has a completely flawed character, then what will you do? Will you marry her just because she looks good?
A person might be a little less good looking or a little dark skinned, but is of amazing character, respects you and your family and is capable for you. Will you say no to her just because she is a little less good looking and go to the previous one with a bad character just based on looks?
Ask these above questions to yourself.
No one is telling you marry a completely ugly looking partner or a partner whom you do not feel comfortable with and whom you do not find beautiful. But don't just look for killer beauty, outside beauty comes with a great cost and the cost for this can be your entire life.
Vdhay Kumar N, free human
to get most beautiful wife in an arraged marriage is bit difficult but not impossible.
Firstly you need to build your cv like good education, good job, good salary, family back ground and a bit of luck. What you need to know is in an arranged marriage parents take larger interest, you need to impress her parents first.
Check profiles whom you find matching, atleast 10 profiles. Start calling them as of India you need to create horoscope if every thing matches you can meet with your parents to the girls parents.
You can also request to talk to her if both of your views match she will say ok or she will just reject you and you can go for another girl.
Manish Chaurasia, I came , i am seeing , will think about ...
There are two ways :
1.Choose a beautiful girl from your neighborhood /college /office /friends group /friends of friends etc. And then propose her. At first she will reject you then don't lose hope just keep going after her, be friend with her , roam around her, always be there to help her, be there during her hard time and she may get feelings for you.
2.Work hard and hard and even harder and then show your money and you are there. Yes man, that's the easier way. Don't believe me? See this
Gurugram based Shakul gupta received more than 2k applications when he posted on Facebook that he would take his valentine on a date to the Oberoi Hotel and gift her an iPhone 7.He described himself as an entrepreneur with an Audi A4.
来自古鲁拉姆的Shakul gupta在Facebook上发帖称，他将和他的情人到奥贝罗伊酒店约会，并送给她一部iPhone 7。他收到了超过2000份申请。他自称是拥有奥迪A4的企业家。
So mate get rich or get lucky. Or change the definition of beautiful for you. You have been getting it all wrong, I guess.
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I am a girl and i would like to tell you how all can you get a beautiful wife.
If you are good looking yourself.
If you have gratuated from IIT or IIM
If you are earning very well than the guys of your age
If you are from a rich family.
If you are an achiever in terms of the society.
Last but not the least , if you are lucky, a beautiful girl may like you for your heart. But in terms of arranged marriage i am not sure about the last point.
Atul Jain, MBA, Psychology & Spirituality
Money attracts money
Beauty attracts beauty
So if you are handsome there are more chances to get beautiful wife.
Just enhance your inner beauty(thoughts, behavior etc) , so there could be chances one beautiful gets impressed and you get success
All d best
Anjit Sharma, Not reproducing from internet always.
That's quite easy. You only need a lot of inherited wealth, a grand business or high paying job, at least 4–5 cars (minimum one imported) , a huge bungalow or apartment in posh society.
You will get prospects on your own.
Kargal Gurumurthy, 30+ working as Professor in an Engineering college/University in Bangalore
Mr. Alan, at the first place, do you believe in the arranged marriage? Is there any such concept out there?
If the answer is yes, then my answer for your question is that you must impress that beautiful girl(would be wife) and her parents very well. You should do lot of survey and find out her hobbies and interests. You have to match her in every respect right from looks, education….. to wealth.If her parents are convinced that her interests would be safe in your hands then you are going to succeed.
That is how it works at least in India.
Be filthy rich.Then go to mumbai(If u r indian).There are many girls who are looking to get into bollywood nd are super hot just show off ur money to them and marry the one u find most attractive.
Kranthi Boyapati, Associate Consultant at Capgemini India (2013-present)
Only beautiful ?
If you find the girl not respecting any one in your family?
If the girl doesn't care for you ?
If she already had a boy friend and still continuing after marriage ?
If she is not interested in you ?
If she had some other goal in life ?
If you can answer all these then it's easy to find a beautiful girl. Just keep on rejecting girls until you a beautiful one.
Sad to give this aswer . Sorry girls.
Zaineb Bookwala, Indian
Be rich and good looking yourself. Then ask for marriage proposals only from pretty girls. With luck at least for a few of them money will be the only important thing and you will get your pretty wife.
Brina Saini, Reader & Foodie
Ever heard of the saying - “Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder.”?
What’s beautiful to me may not be beautiful to you. You need to be more specific about what exactly is beautiful for you. And then expect to find a girl who holds the same standard of beauty as you do as in even she should find you good looking.
Ramya Priya, studied at India
Get a government job.
Assuming you are an Indian.
You have to be rich .the more rich you are the more beautyfull wife you can get thats the reality of indian society
Quora User, lives in India
First of all earn some money. After that go to a western country where female to male sex ratio is high and it is very easy to impress a girl in western country then approach her and propose for marriage. You can also marry more than one girl in western country easily but not on the same time.
Sethulakshmi V, Going through the process
It is the most common way people getting married in India.
Below are the steps being followed in my region among the educated upper middle class families,
1.Parents will create a profile for you in matrimonial website (there are somany) when u reach suitable age for marriage.(Mostly 23 for girls and 27 for guys)
2.The profile contains your personal, academic, career, financial, and family background details.
3.We will search and filter for profiles of same religion,caste (subdivision of religion if you are hindu), region, financial background, and family background.
If you are a hindu (religion) then mostly everyone will have an astrological birth chart,which is generated based on the date and time of birth. An astrologer will check the compatability of the birth chart of guy and girl. If he says they are compatable for marriage then will proceed to next step.
4.Parents will contact the other person’s parents ask are they interested to proceed with this marriage proposal.
5.If both families are interested they will arrage a date when the girl and the guy can meet for first time. Mostly it will happen in girl’s home. 10 or 20 mintues will be given to the couple to talk in private.
6. After this family will ask your opinion about the marriage proposal. If the above factors are compatable and if both families liked each other mostly your family will try to convince you to say yes.
7.If you say yes, the parents and close relatives of the girl will visit guy’s home and judge his financial and social background. Girls are not supposed to visit the guy’s home before marriage even though she is going to stay with them after marriage.
8.If above steps are ok, an engagement date will be fixed. After that contact numbers will be shared among the couple. And they can get to know each other.
9. Family will fix the marriage date.
11.Happily ever after….
There will be variations according to religion and region. There are cases where dowry(it’s a financial assest/amount of money girls’s family has to give to the guy’s.) is mandatory, even though asking or giving dowry is illeagal. It still exsts.
In india marraige is a family business and a complicated process
Jay Shah, I know a bit about relationships
In India it is quite common and I would say at least three quarters of all marriages in India are arranged. And you are not alone. My colleagues from the US in my previous Co used to have similar question and were often surprised learning about arranged marriages in India. You will read a lot about people's experience with arranged marriage on Quora.
Gorby Mathew Alex, Technology Analyst at Infosys (2011-present)
Its like arranged marriage is the norm in India. Falling in love and then getting married to that person is “adventurous” / “wild” .. i lived in malaysia for a few years.. Malaysian born Indians(most of them have never even visited India) still practice arranged marriages.