How Indian Adults are eating their families!

印度成年人为何还在“啃老”

Why do most Indian adults continue to live with their parents well into their 20s and 30s? Is it deep-rooted family love, cultural conditioning, or an brutal combination of skyrocketing real estate and stagnating salaries? In this deep-dive explainer, we decode the real economic, social, and psychological reasons kee young Indians tethered to their childhood bedrooms.

From the famous Aishwarya Rai David Letterman interview to modern multi-generational housing trends, Indian youth face a unique dilemma. While the West pushes kids out at 18, Indian culture labels moving out as rebellion. But behind the scenes, rising rent costs, structural job market challenges, and intense emotional guilt create a system where adult independence becomes nearly impossible for millions.

为什么大多数印度人到了二三十岁依然和父母同住？这究竟是根深蒂固的亲情、文化熏陶，还是房价飞涨与薪资停滞共同造成的残酷现实？大家解读一下让印度年轻人依旧守在原生家庭卧室里的真实经济、社会与心理原因。

从艾西瓦娅·雷那期知名的大卫·莱特曼访谈，到如今多代同堂的趋势，印度年轻人正面临一种特殊困境。西方社会大多要求子女18岁就独立搬出去，而在印度文化里，搬出去住会被视作叛逆。但现实背后，房租高涨、就业市场的结构性难题，再加上沉重的心理负罪感，造就了这样一种局面：印度数以百万计的年轻人几乎很难真正实现独立。

以下是印度网友的评论：

rameshb9109
It's daily mental punishment for any educated adult to depend on parents' money and house.

印度受过教育的成年人，经济全都依靠父母，住房也是需要父母提供，每天的日子过起来都是一种精神折磨。

 

ritupandey4843
Easy to make the government's failure a personal failure of adults.

这是印度政府太失败，人们总爱把问题简单归咎于年轻人自己没本事。

 

nikhilthorat1987
It's a harsh reality of today.
Even after Marraige also adults are staying with their parents in India because the property rates has risen drastically.

这就是当下残酷的现实。在印度，不少人结婚之后依旧和父母同住，根源就是房价涨得太猛。

 

i_am_jon_snow
All thanks to our indian education system

这一切都要“归功”于印度的教育体系。

 

motivationalwisdom‑t8w
Time to change education system or society will be doomed.

印度的教育体系该改革了，不然整个社会都会走向衰败。

 

Memories‑z7y
You told every possible critism except govt. Failure.

你把方方面面都批判了一遍，唯独不提印度政府的失职。

 

Whatsinaname423
I agree. Government should just open up new divisions and have people move files round… that way unemployment can be reduced

我同意。政府就该多设立新部门，招人处理文书工作，这样就能降低失业率。

 

sa34w
Respect your child and support him as long as you can , but also motivate him to find jobs. Not everyone gets jobs easily, it will take time.

尊重孩子，力所能及地帮衬他，但也要鼓励他去找工作。不是所有人都能轻易找到工作，这是需要时间的。

 

vedantraval8194
I have 2 yrs Experience as Pharmacist I am Jobless Since Last 3 months 15 Days my Previous First Organisation also Denied me For opportunity so Private Jobs Are Also Difficult To Get For me. In Other Fields LIKE pharmaceutical Mfg , QA, QC I am Still Searching but Do not getting Even Entry level Apprenticeship Position. In other Fields LIKE IT , Full stack developer I am getting reply that I am not Qualified as I have Bpharm Qualification, But Still Have basic coding knowledge

我有两年药剂师工作经验，已经失业3个月15天。就连我之前就职的老单位，也不肯再给我机会，找私企的工作同样十分艰难。我还在投递制药生产、质量保证、质量控制这类岗位，可是连入门学徒的岗位都拿不到。我也尝试投递IT行业的全栈开发岗位，对方回复说我是药学本科，专业不对口，哪怕我掌握基础编程知识也没用。

 

JayWalker‑x3d
Both parents and children shouldn't depend too much on each other, it's high time we fully adopt a western family dynamic

父母和子女双方都不该过度互相依附，我们早就该全面学习西方的家庭相处模式。

 

DevkJ‑h4f
Unemployment is at its peak in India .. kaare tha kiya karee padhe likhe , skilled people

印度现在的失业率居高不下。受过教育、身怀技能的人，也不知道出路在哪。

 

VikashKumarLive‑02
And our grandparents were busy making cricket teams , aur bolte hai ki 'blessings lo'. + Wow, we are at the top of world population ranking - no.1 , wow we are so luckieat to be born here from bottom.

老一辈总热衷于组建板球队。我们国家人口全世界第一。生在底层，也算是另一种“幸运”。

 

xyz47580
बेटा वो जो दौर देखा है उसके अनुसार वो गलत भी नहीं है ।
पहले कौन से संतान की मृत्यु हो जाएगी किसी को पता नहीं था कोई जन्म लेते मर जाता था तो कोई जवान होते होते ।
और पुराने समय में जब किसी का पुत्र नहीं होता था तो उसकी हालत देखा नहीं जाता था

父辈那个年代太难了。以前，没人说得准哪个孩子会夭折，有的孩子刚出生就离世，有的年纪轻轻就死去。在过去，如果一户人家没有儿子，日子会过得十分艰难。

 

hardtalkshj
Unemployment and unreasonable working hours are biggest issue

要么就是失业，还有工作时间过长，才是最大的难题。

 

Doomedgorilla
Ye jitne bhi survey hote hai various fields ke usane kabhi mera survey nahi hua aaj tak

各行各业做过那么多调研，我却从来没有被纳入过调查样本。

 

venugopalbk4144
Western lifestyle and consumerism,with protection from parents ,a deadly combination towards self destruction

西式生活方式加上消费主义，再背靠父母兜底，这套组合简直会把人毁掉。

 

loniagarwala9608
Yes. If they stay with parents they have to forgoe their lifestyle eg: no online shop etc, no fancy food orders, no 800₹ coffee, no vegan fancy food , no packet protein , plus they must seriously help in the housework and get some expenses down

确实。如果和父母同住，就得注意自己的生活方式。不能随便网购，不能点高档外卖，喝不起800卢比的咖啡，吃不起精致素食，也不能买袋装补剂。而且还得分担家务，缩减各类开销。

 

pravanjanbehera3230
The Indian system has failed in every field. This horrible situation Sir.

印度这套体系在各个领域都运转失灵。现状实在太糟糕。

 

Informative‑v9l
As you can see, jobs are becoming unstable and earning opportunities are shrinking. In reality, no one helps you when things go wrong. That’s why planning and responsibility are important, whether in life or decisions.

可以看到，现在工作越来越不稳定，赚钱的机会越来越少。真遇到困境的时候，没人会伸出援手。所以不管是过日子还是做选择，做好规划、扛起责任格外重要。

 

ushasharma877
बहुत समझदारी भरा वीडियो बनाया है आपने मेरे ख्याल से यह इंडिया में 50% घरों की कहानी होगी जहां मां‑बाप रिटायर होने के कगार पर हैं और बच्चों की जॉब ना लगी हो या हो अलग‑अलग कारण से बच्चे जाब ना कर रहे हैं। इमोशनली हर्ट नहीं करना है करके मां‑बाप बिल्कुल नहीं बोलते लेकिन इससे फायदा सिर्फ इतना है कि बच्चा घर में अपने आप को सुरक्षित समझ रहा है लेकिन अंदर की उसकी लड़ाई खत्म नहीं होती और फायदा भी किसी को नहीं होता। लेकिन यहां मुख्य कदम तो बच्चों को ही उठाना होता है जिन्हें कुछ भी छोटे‑मोटे काम करने से परहेज नहीं होना चाहिए। और वह बच्चे शायद ऐसी वीडियो को नहीं देखते होंगे।

印度大概半数家庭都是这样：父母快要退休，子女却找不到工作，或是因为种种原因没有就业。父母不想伤害孩子的感情，也不愿意多说。孩子待在家里虽然有安全感，但内心的煎熬谁懂啊，到头来对谁都没有好处。但改变终究要靠年轻人自己，不能嫌弃底层工作。

 

sahilsarang6945
Accha kaise kare chota mota kam? Salary ki halat dekhe hai working condition dekhe hai?

说得轻巧，去哪找零工？你看过现在的薪资水平和工作环境吗？

 

PeaceexpertDRmedi
अब विदेशियों को इसमें भी दिक्क़त है की भारतीय लोग अपने माता पिता के साथ क्यू रहते है

现在连外国人都想不通，为什么印度年轻人总要和父母住在一起。

 

VijayKumarPandit1960
भारत के सभी घर का हाल ऐसा हीं होता है

印度几乎家家户户都是这样的情况，年轻人和父母一起住

 

ajs6sg2vb_xj
क्या गजब के टॉपिक लेके आते हो सर एक दम आइना दिखाने वाला और वास्तविकता पर आधारित

先生，你选的话题太犀利了，就像一面镜子，完全还原现实。

 

surajkashyap5648
असली समस्या ये देश और इसकी मानसिकता है

真正的问题，是这个国家以及民众固有的思维。

 

rishikesh7676
Does India have enough housing?

印度的住房供给足够吗？

 

chaudharyshaab2001
If all family members reside together than consumption is also low this good for climate change.

全家人住在一起，物资消耗会变少，这对改善气候变化也有好处。

 

palalghosh‑pe4xq
Tbh living with parents save a lot of money and restricts resource delpletion in a huge country like india

说实话，和父母同住可以省下一大笔钱。在印度这样人口庞大的国家，还能减少资源消耗。

 

aayanshvlogging1260
A man with a lot of burdens and responsibilities, keeps on walkingggggg for his lady for his kids for his father for his mom for his friends and for the society. Respect for him

男人背负重重压力与责任，为伴侣、孩子、父母、朋友和社会不停奔波。向这样的人致敬。

 

AnilJadon‑z8s
सारी आफत की जड़ शादी है।। सबसे बढ़िया शादी मत करो ! ना होगी शादी और ना होगे बच्चे ना खरीदना होगा घर और ना होगी कोई बेरोजगारी ! जिंदगी बहुत आसान है बस एकबार शादी को अपनी जिंदगी से बाहर करके देखो !!
No marrage no slavery.

所有烦恼的根源就是结婚。最好的选择就是不结婚。不结婚就没有孩子，不用买房，也不用担心失业。生活本可以很简单，只要把婚姻从人生选项里去掉。
不结婚，就不用被生活绑架。

 

rajiburrahman8176
Indian system going to break.

印度这套体系快要撑不住了。

 

Sreekanchana
We are not dependent. We understand the value of our parents and our duty

我们不是在啃老。我们懂得父母的可贵，也明白自己身上肩负的责任。

 

rajrajjfirst
Indian education system hi itna badhiya hai , ki 20 saal tak kareeb 30 lak rupees invest karke bhi ek unemployed insan genrate krta hai
Jaakar phele doosre countries ka education system dekho , sara dosh government ka hi hai

印度的教育体系就是这个样子。投入近20年、花掉300万卢比，最后培养出来的孩子却找不到工作。先去看看别的国家的教育制度吧，所有问题根源都在政府。

 

Amn448
Osho sahi kahta tha bharat me hamne itne logo ko padha Diya hai ki nokri utni hai hi nhi

奥修说得没错，印度培养出大量受过教育的人，可是根本没有足够岗位。

 

rajushtidbxka
Everyday I thank to the universe that I'm not born in a family without education + wisdom

我每天都感恩命运，庆幸自己没有出生在一个没有学识与眼界的家庭。

 

indiacha
Population control law aana chaahiye

我们印度应该出台人口管控相关法律。

 

neerajpandey243
भारत में सारी समस्या की जड़ अत्याधिक जनसंख्या है

印度绝大多数问题，根源都是人口过多。

 

Idea.IDEAL.Ideals
Exsting mentality about Job Positions, Status & Standards must be scrapped & renovated by the Emerging Generations. Creating New jobs situations which have been non exsted till now or renovation of exsting instead of Govt administration is the need of the hour.

新一代人必须摒弃旧有的岗位、身份、等级观念。当下的当务之急，不是等着政府增设公职，而是创造过去没有的新型工作，改造现有的就业岗位。

 

MrNeerajkapoor008
To blame youth for non‑ availability of jobs is stupidity.

把岗位不足的责任推给年轻人，是十分愚蠢的行为。

 

Brain_Spy
You missed one key point too. There are some individuals whom I know who have certificates, favourable for employment but rejected due to high or low BMI. Such people try very hard to reduce or increase bmi to get job and trying trying years pass and then due to gap due to getting right body weight , no company will take you due to gap in work. I am referring to Merchant navy job, this is done due to Insurance companies not giving insurance to company who sends people with high or low bmi than required

你还漏掉一个关键点。我认识一些人，证书齐全，本可以顺利就业，却因为身体问题被拒。为了拿到工作，他们拼命增重或是减重。一晃好几年过去，中间留下职业空窗期。等体重达标之后，企业又会因为这段空白不肯录用。我说的是商船船员岗位。出现这种情况，是因为如果企业录用体重指数BMI不达标的人员，保险公司不愿意给企业投保