'Can't take beatings anymore': Uttar Pradesh woman in New York sends dad video of husband's abuse, kills self

在纽约生活的北方邦女子将丈夫虐待她的视频发给了父亲后自杀：“再也受不了被殴打了”

BIJNOR: A Bijnor-born woman living in New York since 2018 killed herself shortly after sending a heart-wrenching video to her father in India saying she "couldn't take the daily beatings (at the hands of her husband) anymore". Though the video was sent on August 1, details of the sordid case are tumbling out just now.

比杰诺尔：一名比杰诺尔出生的女子自2018年以来居住在纽约，她向在印度的父亲发送了一段令人心碎的视频，不久后自杀，称“再也不能忍受每天被丈夫殴打了”。虽然该视频是在8月1日发出的，但该案件的细节刚刚浮出水面。

The woman, 32-year-old Mandeep Kaur, also sent several videos to her family over a period of time, captured on CCTV, documenting the domestic violence she was subjected to. A mother of two girls, she was allegedly tortured for "not being able to produce a male child" as well as for bringing inadequate dowry.

32岁的曼蒂普·考尔还向家人发送了几段视频，记录了她遭受的家庭暴力。作为两个女孩的母亲，据称她因“没能生男孩”以及嫁妆不够丰厚而遭受折磨。

In one of the unverified videos that was widely shared on social media, her husband, Ranjodhbeer Singh, can be seen thrashing her while their two little daughters are wailing in the background, shouting, "Papa, na maro mumma nu (Dad, please don't hit mom)".

在社交媒体上广泛分享的一段未经证实的视频中，可以看到她的丈夫Ranjodhbeer Singh殴打她，而他们的两个小女儿在一旁哭泣，喊道，“爸爸，na maro mumma nu(爸爸，请不要打妈妈)”。

Kaur, in one of the final clips that she sent to her family in India, said, "My husband assaults me repeatedly. He has illicit relations with several women... (my father) had filed a police case against him back in India but he pleaded and asked me to save him... and I did. At first, I thought he would mend his ways, but the atrocities kept increasing. I cannot bear this anymore. I am going to kill myself... Forgive me, daddy".

考尔在发给她在印度的家人的最后一段视频中说，“我丈夫多次殴打我。他与几个女人有不正当关系。(我父亲)在印度的时候就向警方起诉过他，但他求我救他一次，我照做了。起初，我以为他会改过自新，但他的暴行越来越多。我再也受不了了。我要自杀……原谅我，爸爸。”

The video sparked anger in both the US and India. It was shared widely by the Kaur Movement, an organisation that works for sexual and domestic abuse victims, focusing mainly on the Sikh community. Soon, there were online campaigns seeking 'Justice for Mandeep' and the hashtag was trending on Twitter.

这段视频在美国和印度都引发了愤怒。这一消息得到了“考尔运动”的广泛支持，该组织为性侵和家暴受害者服务，主要关注锡克教社区。很快，网上出现了寻求“为曼蒂普伸张正义”的活动，这个标签在Twitter上成为热门话题。

以下是印度时报读者的评论：译者：Jessica.Wu

ho

Besides the obvious culprits her parents n family should also be taken to task. It wasn't the first time...nor were they unaware... but they didn't take any action. Shameless mentality.Failed to teach their daughter to stand up for herself...nor did they stood up for her.

除了罪犯，她的父母和家人也应该受到指责。这不是第一次家暴了，他们也不是不知道……

但他们没有采取任何行动。他们没能教会女儿保护自己，也没有为她挺身而出。

User badal

Such core issues of women are not cared a bit which is rampant in Indian society. Dowry should be banned as illegal and crime.

印度社会普遍存在的女性核心问题根本不受重视。嫁妆应该被视为非法和犯罪，应该被禁止。

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What were the girl's parents doing for 8 yrs when such inhumane act is happening???Why they did not take legal action

8年来，当这种不人道的行为发生时，女子的父母在做什么？他们为什么不采取法律行动

Krishna

Counselling to Couples at, during & after Marriage etc Must be Compulsory to Reduce All Marital Frictions to Reduce Sufferings (of Wife-Wife-Children)

我们应当强制要求夫妻在结婚时、结婚期间和结婚后进行心理咨询，以减少婚姻摩擦，减少(妻子-孩子)的痛苦

Abdullah Khan

This woman was a liar n fraud. Many times parents give their bipolar daughters for hand in marriage n want husband to take care of mentally ill girl. This girl was mentally ill n she had suicide thoughts all the time. Shame on the girl for destroying life of husband even after death.

这个女人是个骗子。很多时候，父母把患有躁郁症的女儿嫁给丈夫，希望丈夫照顾患有精神病的女孩。

这个女孩有精神病，她一直有自杀的想法。

这个女孩死后还毁了丈夫的生活，真为她感到羞耻。

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These criminal minded stupid people must be told that it's only the father's XY chromosomes decide whether it'll be a boy or a girl! The mother has no role in sex determination!

我们应当告诉这些有犯罪意识的蠢人，只有父亲的Y染色体才能决定生男孩还是女孩

不是母亲决定的

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I still believe that parents of Indian girls(especially Punjabi families)will not learn any lesson from this horrific and unfortunate incident and still will be looking for USA/UK/ CANADA tagged grooms for their daughters in greed of visas of respective country seeking greener pastures there.

我仍然认为，印度女孩的父母(尤其是旁遮普家庭)不会从这起可怕和不幸的事件中吸取教训，仍然会为自己的女儿寻找有美国、英国和加拿大标签的新郎，就为了获得这些国家的签证，在那里寻求更好的发展。

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It doesn't matter how many nukes, Tejas or 6th gen fighter plans we get. We'll really not be able to strong enough until we get rid of this type of stupid mentality.

我们有多少核弹、光辉战机或者第六代战斗机都不重要。在我们摆脱这种愚蠢的心态之前，我们真的无法足够强大

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This article has shown the real life story of the woman who was weak and she allowed her husband to torture her and she committed suicide when cannot bear his physical & mental tortures.,Women should be brave not weak. They shouldn’t allow anyone to torture them. Stop the beast at the first incidence or leave him at the first incidence of physical or mental abuse.,Drunken men are not humans they are the beasts roaming around in the society to torture women.,Leave them or kill them for the benefit of the society.

这篇文章展示了一个女人的真实生活，她很脆弱，容忍她的丈夫折磨她，当她无法忍受他的身体和精神折磨时，她自杀了。

女人应该勇敢，不能软弱，不应该放任他人虐待她们。

在第一次发生身体或精神虐待时阻止或离开。

醉汉不是人，他们是游荡在社会上折磨女人的野兽。

为了社会的利益，要么离开他们，要么杀死他们。

Reddy

POPULATION CONTROL

控制人口

User Rana

What a heart wrecking news! May her sould rest in peace and justice is served ASAP.

令人心碎的消息

愿她安息，正义尽快得到伸张。

User now

Girls in india are crazy about a foreign based groom, even if he is a cobler there

印度女孩都很喜欢外国新郎，即使他在那边只是个修鞋匠

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The father saw this coming, yet i do not know if he made any efforts to bring her back. as much as the husband is responsible, so are her parents for making her live in hell. parents need to pull back their children in the very first instance of abuse.

她的父亲知道，但我不知道他是否做过什么把自己的孩子救回来。丈夫有责任，她的父母也有责任，让她活在地狱里。父母需要在孩子第一次受到虐待时就把他们拉回来。

Kumar Sen

First punish all the relatives along with the cruel mad husband and make every paper to publish.

惩罚残忍的疯丈夫，连同双方的父母，在每一份报纸上发表。

Guest

Hang him there

绞死他

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Why she did not take the help of Indian community in NY OR call 911. Her life would have been saved. Punish the Man severely under the law.

为什么她不接受纽约印度社区的帮助或拨打911，这样她就能得救。依法严惩那个男人。

Hiten Indie

Tragedy. Only if she could call local police and share the evidence. The man will get arrested anyways and children will be orphaned. At times seeking divorce and protection from police is better and long term solution. Domestic violence isn't specific to Indians, it is in west as well

悲剧。要是她能给当地警察打电话，分享证据，就好了。无论如何，这个男人都会被逮捕，孩子们会成为孤儿。有时，寻求离婚和警察的保护是更好的长期解决方案。家庭暴力不是印度特有的，在西方也有。

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Take action against husband and all elders both sides.... What are her parents waiting for all these days??? An innocent life is lost

起诉丈夫和双方的长辈，她的父母在等什么？失去了一条无辜的生命

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Male chauvinism, dowry, inability to produce a male child AND cruel mothers-in-law are the biggest enemies of a married women. An understanding husband could change almost everything.

大男子主义、嫁妆、生不出男孩和残忍的婆婆是已婚女性最大的痛处。一个善解人意的丈夫几乎可以改变一切。

Sahil Samandar

This demon should be hanged in public.

这个恶魔应该被当众绞死。

Shekar Natesh

A male who illtreats a female is not a male at all.

虐待女性的男人根本就不是男人。