Why Indian girls are so conservative compared to girls in UK and US ?
Tejasvita Apte, Indian lawyer, inter alia
I agree with Gauri completely on this. How do you really define conservative?
The dictionary defines it thus -
"averse to change or innovation and holding traditional values."
Really? Marathi women have been challenging traditional values for centuries.
The first Indian feminists and women's rights activists have been Marathi women.
The first Indian 'priests' (pujaris) have also been Marathi women. Pune’s women poojaris: Breaking through the ‘sacred’ cordon - The Times of India
I have seen examples in my family.
My great -grandmother (panji, as I used to call her) fought against all odds to be a nurse in the 1940s in Pune. She was deserted by her husband and was left with 3 children to look after when she enrolled herself for a nursing course.
My great grandmother stopped the custom of 'sitting aside during menstruation', which was very common in Brahmin women of her generation. (A little context here - In India, a menstruating woman was considered 'impure' and was required to sit aside for the 3 days. She wasn't allowed to touch other people or household articles).
When she died (she died of cancer), she left specific instructions of carrying her in an ambulance and cremating her electrically (Vidyut Dahini). Again to give you a context, as a custom a dead person is carried on their shoulders by 4 people to be cremated the Hindu way on a pyre. This still happens. Although now people are carried in Ambulance, when she passed away, that wasn't the common thing.
My grandmother, my ajji too was a working woman. She was a manager in a factory. The only woman in the entire factory! What's more, she used to ride a cycle to go to her factory!
A sight I find very hard to imagine. My ajji, in a sari, riding a cycle! She did it and I am proud of her.
My grandmother is a highly progressive woman and throughout my life of 25 years, I haven't heard her say a thing that could even remotely be called 'sexst' or 'misogynist'. She has contributed a lot of my own world view.
I distinctly remember she once told me about a lesbian couple she knew from her generation. Needless to say, they could never come out of the closet as homosexuality wasn't even spoken about in the 1950s in India. She simply told me that she thought they should have the freedom to follow their mind!
How many Indians from my generation can boast about having a conversation about homosexuality with their grand-parents? Most Indians are uncomfortable talking about it even to their parents or friends.
So dig a little deeper. Go beyond the clothes and make-up to discover that Marathi women have been at the forefront of social reform. Marathi culture in fact has nurtured social reforms. You can see the influence in women's education, rights, Indian freedom struggle, everywhere. Quite opposite of 'conservative' really!
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Shubham Bansal, Humble citizen, Will help in re-building India.
Now why would you exactly have a problem with a conservative girl? Interesting.
And I know some Marathi girls who were solenoidal or non-conservative. Kindly refrain from generalizing.
P.S. I am not a misogynist. I can also treat boys as vector fields should the need arise.
Also what I meant to say is your generalization was faulty. The world today is changing. And everyone adds something to our Society. The premise of this question suggest you ask this considering conservative a bad term.
However I have utmost respect for conservative girls. And others too :) Being conservative is in your mind and ideas, not dress or lifestyle.
Conservative is what we need. One who conserves the right things from the culture and embraces the good things from other cultures.
For more accurate, insightful, crisp and sensible words, kindly see Gauri Noolkar and Rutuja Jathar's answers.
如果你要想看更准确、更有见地、更直白的回答，请参阅Gauri Noolkar和Rutuja Jathar的回答。
Rohit Sharma, Software professional. Art enthusiast. ENFJ.
I do not agree with the way we are looking at the question.
Disclaimer: I have been living and working in Pune for last 4.5 years. Had privilege to work with a lot of 'Marathi Manus' and some of them (including girls) are very close friends of mine. Had some experiences which enable me to relate with the asked question. I just have a different perspective on the question and I don't intend to hurt or demean Maharashtrians out here. I respect you guys. :)
Why is it on Quora that whenever we see such a controversial question, we loose our temper and become red eyed. Without thinking for a moment, we take out our hunters and unleash those dogs on the person seeking the answer. And the heart breaking thing is that most of the time we are appreciated for doing that. Is it so hard to empathize? Is it so hard to put ourselves in someone's shoes?
The experiences we have and the events we go through shape our perspective towards society and how we look at people. There is nothing wrong or right in it. And the beautiful thing is, it changes.
Though I realize the tone of the question is more accusing than inquiring. I genuinely feel that he is just a bit hurt and curious because of the experience he had. @questioner, if it was meant to be an insult than you deserve the bashing. If not, than go ahead and read the complete answer.
Here's the similar experience I had:
When I first went to Pune to collect my offer letter from company X. I met this girl A who by the way was a Maharashtrian girl. She was sitting beside me. It was a 3-4 hours formal ceremony. In those few hours we talked a lot about relevant stuff and became good friends. She looked happy to have met me. Then it was time to leave, I stood up, said a formal bye and SHOOK HANDS WITH HER. Suddenly, her reaction changed which anybody could have obviously felt. I couldn't fathom the reason and left.