When father ‘castes’ away son for marriage
PATNA: It's said that marriages are made in heaven. But for newly-wed Sushant Jasu, life has been made hell by his father Siddhnath Sharma who, angered by his son's intercaste marriage, has filed a Rs 1 crore defamation suit against him in Danapur civil court, near Patna, Bihar.
"I am hurt, deeply hurt," Sharma, an advocate, said of his son's marriage which took place on November 19, 2013 in Gujarat. "This stupid boy has destroyed our 400-year-old and 16 generation long family tradition of marrying in own caste. I can't forgive him. The family tradition is bigger than a son whose act has defamed me," says Sharma. Jasu, who works for the central government as a senior tax assistant in Gujarat's Palampur town, is an upper caste Bhumihar. His wife, who works in a private bank and is also a resident of Danapur, is a Kurmi, a lower landowning caste that falls in the creamy layer among backward castes and to which Bihar chief minister Nitish Kumar too belongs.
沙玛，（种姓制）拥护者，谈到他儿子于2013年11月19日在古吉拉特邦举行的婚礼时说 ，“我受了创伤，深深的创伤。” 他又说, “这个傻小子，破坏了我们种姓内通婚的家族传统。我们这个传统已有400年之久，相传了16代不断，我没法饶他。家族传统大过一个玷污了我名声的儿子。”
His case, which has received international attention, is a crushing blow to the Bihar government's attempts to encourage intercaste marriage. They are still largely considered taboo and those who do it face hostility from their families and society. Casteism is deep-rooted and nothing moves forward without taking caste into consideration, be it contesting election, marriage or even shopping for marriage, where people prefer making purchases from sellers of their caste, wherever it is possible.
Social welfare minister Parveen Amanullah said that while honour killings, widely reported in UP and Haryana, are not common in Bihar, couples have been threatened, tortured and even ostracized by their community. In an earlier instance, another father in Patna belonging to the same caste as Sharma was so enraged that his son, an IIT engineer, decided to marry a girl from a backward caste that he asked his son to make down payment of Rs 50 lakh to him as "tilak". The son took a loan to pay the "extortion" money to his father, who then blessed the couple.
Amanullah's department is also offering cash incentives, but to couples who marry out of caste. While earlier the amount was Rs 25,000, she has recently petitioned for it to be doubled to Rs 50,000 to increase its effectiveness. But retired Bihar cadre IAS officer A K Biswas says the scheme hasn't taken off, largely due to the hostile attitudes of educated men like Sharma. "Sharma has not only acted against his adult son's right to choose a life-partner of his choice but has also traumatized and shocked him by instituting a case for compensation of a hundred million of rupees," he says.
Biswas, who also served as vice-chancellor of Babasaheb Bhimrao Ambedkar University in Bihar, recalls how during Prime Minister Rajiv Gandhi's time, a Maithili Brahmin, working as peon in the Darbhanga collectorate, was suspended for marrying a Dusadh (dalit caste) girl. He was eventually dismissed from service, though the couple was happily married with children. The media enthusiastically campaigned in favour of the couple in the face of stiff opposition from the local orthodox Brahmin community.
比斯瓦还担任比哈尔邦Babasaheb Bhimrao Ambedkar大学副校长一职。他回忆起，在拉吉夫．甘地当总理的年代，一位在达尔班加 税务区做下役的曼蒂利婆罗门，是如何因为娶了种姓为杜薩德（属贱民类）的姑娘而被停职的。尽管这对伴侣幸福结婚並有了孩子，他最终还是被该部门开除了。面对当地传统婆罗门群体的顽固反对，媒体帮他们做了热烈的宣传。
The peon even went to Delhi to meet the Prime Minister, but despite his intervention, the Bihar government could not reinstate him. Jagannath Mishra was the then chief minister.
"Caste operates against brotherhood and breeds contempt for others. Today Sharma has demonstrated how far caste can disgrace even a father," says Biswas.
Ironically, Sharma claims he is not against intercaste marriages per se, but refuses to accept that his only son married out of caste. The lawyer, who also claims to be poet and writer, has not only disowned Jasu but warned him against using the family name Sharma. Pleading his own case, Sharma has proposed a solution to his predicament, asking his son to obtain the written consent of his present wife for him to marry a second wife, one from the same caste, who can live with Sharma and his wife and fulfill the role of their daughter-in-law.
"This will soothe my ruffled feeling and I will get my right," he says.
The civil court in Danapur has held four hearings of Sharma's case, a first of its kind, and will decide on February 1 whether the case is admissible or not. Sharma stands alone in his battle - his wife and other close family members not only attended Jasu's wedding but gave their blessings to the couple. Sharma has been unmoved by their pleas, stating, "I want to ignite a national debate on sons going for intercaste marriage by trampling on the sentiments of their parents."
However social scientist Shaibal Gupta believes men like Sharma are a dying breed. Resistance notwithstanding, intercaste marriages are taking place in Bihar and steadily increasing in number. "Bihar is a liberated society. There are contradictions between castes but normally they don't translate into overt antagonism," he states.
然而，社会学家塞巴尔．古普塔相信，象沙玛这样的男子，越来越少了。尽管有阻力，在比哈尔邦，有人在跨越种姓结婚，而且数量稳定上升。“ 比哈尔是个开明社会。种姓之间有各种矛盾，但一般不会成为公开的仇视，” 他说。
Troll of the year. This guy should be sent to an asylum and given shots of horse tranquilizer. Maybe that will cure him of his insanity.
Its like life is playing a cruel joke on me! I was a victim of the same injustice by a "Justice" just as recent as yesterday! We werent only deeply in love, but our lives were deeply intertwined with each other's. I am a Punjabi Rajput, and the guy -like in this case- a Sharma. The guy;s father, a Justice in Allahabad HC, lied to him about our kundlis first, and then without his consent (and knowledge) fixed his marriage to a Brahmin family. And after 3 years of dilly-dallying suddenly finalised everythg in a month and married him off yesterday, after slapping his own son on his "Wedding day"! The reason for my rejection? - I would've been a "blot" on their his father's reputation had he married his son to a non-Brahmin girl like me. I am not a castiest, and I don't eve claim to be better than any other caste. But if this is what it means to be a Brahmin, then sorry, Brahmins should immediately be labelled an "outcast" by the society
sumit kumar burnwal ()
Chutiye, Baap bada na Bhaiya... sabse bada rupaiya. F**K ur traditions u pathetic father, who can't even realize where the happiness of his son lies
WOWWW!!! Finally i feel India is progressing!!!
Azad hind (Unknown)
After all, it's Nitish rule in Bihar, anything is possible.
ONE SIDED VERSION OF THE WHOLE STORY
WE HAVE SACRIFICED OUR CULTURE TO THE FEET OF WESTERN VALUES..THAT IS WHY THERE ARE SO MUCH HULLABALOOS
Azad hind (Unknown) replies to dev
I do agree with you, bro.
Bapu M Sumara (Unknown)
Kaushik Pal (BBSR)
True and absolutely correct Pavan B "The court should not admit his case and instead fine him for wasting its precious hours" Well said !!! Good one
Pavan B ，真是这样，完全正确，“这法庭不该受理此案，而应罚他浪费宝贵时间” 说得好！！ 好
R kumar (India)
Love is facial discrimination and body discrimination... I have no sympathy to people in love-affairs except if they stand for cause development and happiness of people .. Love-affairs must be banned and better promote and respect prostitu*es
R kumar (delhi)
Love marriage is ugly thing ..I also accept ..love is physical discrimination ..People doing love or living in relationship must be punished like this as they do physical discrimination and except world to respect them..
Aarush Kumar ()
stupid people still believes in caste
Sandeep Laik (Bangalore,India)
Disgusting creature, these so Called "Educated","Open Minded", "Liberal" public of India...
Sankli murugan (Unknown)
Another day today incident in India. but taken as new now.