No shame in showing tears, it's ok for men to cry: Sachin Tendulkar
NEW DELHI: "There's no shame in showing your tears," said Sachin Tendulkar on Wednesday, recalling a time when he believed that crying makes a man weak, a belief he wants none to have now.
In an open letter to fellow men in the ongoing International Men's Week, the cricket icon said his tribe should never pretend to be tough when things are falling apart.
"There's no shame in showing your tears. So why hide a part of you that actually makes you stronger? Why hide your tears?" he asked in an emotional ne.
"Because that's what we are brought up to believe - that men are not supposed to cry. That crying makes a man weak.
"I grew up believing this. And the reason I'm writing to you today, is because I realised that I was wrong. My struggles and my pain made me who I am, sha me into a better man," he added.
The 46-year-old, arguably the greatest batsman to have played cricket, said crying does not mean weakness.
"It takes a lot of courage to show your pain and your vulnerability. But just as sure as the morning, you'll emerge from it tougher and better. So I encourage you to move past these stereotypes and notions of what men can or cannot do. Whoever you are, wherever you are, I wish you this courage," he said.
"Undoubtedly, there will be times when you fail, and you will feel like crying and letting it all out. But sure enough, you'll hold back the tears and pretend to be tough. Because that's what men do," he wre.
Recalling his last day in international cricket, when he broke down while delivering a farewell , Tendulkar said he embraced the flood of emotions that came with the occasion.
"I had thought about it for a long time but nothing could prepare me for that last walk back to the pavilion. With each step it started sinking in. I felt a lump in my throat, the fear of it all ending.
"There was so much going through my head in that moment. I just couldn't keep it in. And I didn't fight it. I let go in front of the world, and surprisingly, I felt a certain peace," he remembered.
"I felt stronger for putting myself out there and grateful for everything that I had received. I realised I was man enough," he said.
译文来源：三泰虎 http://www.santaihu.com/48843.html 译者：Jessica.Wu
PK•353•Member • Pk•Pune•3 days ago
Why...... ? Men don't have feelings? They are also human beings they also get effected with all ups and downs in life. Infact tears are very good way to release lot of emotions and pressures.
JJ Canada•8758•Influencer Movie Buff Moderator • JJ Canada•Canada•3 days ago
Well said emotions are natural men or women it is the same!
Charsi Pappu•10415• JJ Canada•3 days ago
We''ve had enough of Sachin, getting irritating.
Indestructible•4813•Influencer Wordsmith News King • Jolly LLB•3 days ago
Dear Tendulkar, you are idol for many youths. Please do not make such absurd staements. You are a sportsperson. Have some shame and do not post such nuisances again. Stay a sportperson , do not be a philopspher.
Raj Chawla•272•Influencer Wordsmith Member • Raj•i•3 days ago
Pseudo feminism is fast taking roots in India a western dogma which is supported by media ,court and go nment
Orjun Thengdi• Orjun Thengdi•mumbai•3 days ago
Still gives me goosebumps whenever I watch him play on screen
The Navigatio•301• The Navigatio•3 days ago
If a legend is saying then it means a lot and I also agree with sachin. It doesn''t show weakness but their feelings.
Common Indian• Common Indian•India•3 days ago
The man who faced down Shoaib Akthar, Wasim and Waqar, and other great bowlers. An epitome of courage if there ever was one. If he, of his standing, says that crying is OK, then it surely is.
这个人击败了Shoaib Akthar, Wasim, Waqar以及其他伟大的投球手。如果他说流泪也无妨，那肯定没错。
Rajeev Narayan•2084•Movie Buff Influencer Wordsmith • Rajeev Narayan•Nagpur•3 days ago
In an emotionally charged moment the tears are bound to fall. There is no harm for the men to cry.
Smart Fellow• Smart Fellow•India•3 days ago
I cry often while cutting onions.
Dreet•12395•Influencer Wordsmith Member • Smart Fellow•3 days ago
Even buying onions these days
Sunil Tiwari•140• Smart Fellow•3 days ago
many do when they see the price of onions
Praerit Jaitley•5•Member • Praerit Jaitley•3 days ago
Its such an honour to grow up having a star like you play during our childhood. You are motivating, you give us the reason never to give up and be humble which is a rare characteritics in todays players.
Sakura•7576•Influencer Wordsmith Member • Sakura•Bengaluru•3 days ago
You know something Sachin, half of India cried with you too...we all felt cricket will never see a committed cricketer like you again ever, quiet ly so...
Aneesh Awasthi•2257• Aneesh•3 days ago
agreed fully....it's normal to show your emotions....why should anybody hide them???
Susan Dcruz•10• Susan•3 days ago
Well said Sachin. In and out of the field, you are the greatest, unmatched! God bless you always.
Suavik Kumar• Suavik Kumar•Bangalore•3 days ago
I had a GF named Pallavee. Her parents made fun of me when I cried when we broke up. I felt miserable and weak. Have moved on and realised that i was true to my emotions and that it does not matter if someone demeans our tears. If you are reading this you will understand
Joshuva Dae•103• Joshuva Dae•3 days ago
No shame tears
Asok Datta•2438• Asok Datta•3 days ago
Tears are great in releasing pent up emotions-well said
Evans Sumitra•1106• Evans Sumitra•New York, USA.•3 days ago
I hope it is not crocodile tears to show it to the public. Never trust a crying man and a laughing woman.