原文标题：16 million women married to gay men in China: Expert
BEIJING: An estimated 16 million women in China may be married to homosexual men, “silently suffering” the consequences to sustain their wedlock, a leading Chinese expert claimed today.
Prof Zhang Bei-chuan from Qingdao University, who researches on AIDS and HIV, said that about 90% of homosexual men marry because of pressure to follow traditional values prevalent in the country.
“But their wives are struggling to cope and their plight should be recognised,” he was quoted by the state-run China Daily. About 16 million women in China may be married to homosexual men, he claimed.
Xiao Yao, a 29-year-old magazine editor in Xi’an, Shaanxi province, divorced her gay husband in 2008.
“Most gay men’s wives I’ve known are silently suffering at the hands of husbands who could never love them, and like me, some even got abused by husbands who were also under great pressure,” she said.
She runs a website which has 1,200 such women registered as users and says it “makes them feel they’re not alone and empowers them to make the right choices.”
However, the gay community is split on the claim. “Zhang’s estimation is unsubstantiated and I even feel it’s pointless to research the issue,” Xiao Dong, a 36-year-old gay, who heads a civil organisation for HIV/AIDS prevention and control, said.
“To put gays’ wives under the spotlight might cause more public misunderstanding or even hatred toward the gay population, which does not help defuse existing social discrimination against them,” he said, while adding that the question of marriage is complicated for them.
However, Meng Lin, a 50-year-old gay from Beijing, believes that Zhang’s estimation is reasonable.
“I myself almost married a woman many years ago, but finally gave up when I learnt I was HIV positive,” he said.
“Gay men and gays’ wives are both victims of social discrimination and stigma, so we should not simply blame one party,” he added.
Wang Zi (name changed) said that he would never tell his parents the truth and while he does not want a heterosexual marriage, he would consider it so as not to hurt the feelings of his parents.
“I may marry a lesbian and we can keep going with our own lifestyle more honestly,” the 27-year-old said.
05 Feb, 2012 01:12 PM
India has double that number
04 Feb, 2012 10:09 PM
This situation is very dangerous.If the biological need of a life partner is not fulfilled the existence of younger generation will be a great question.The situation of increased number of HIV people will ruin the entire population….
Siloo Kapadia (Singapore)
04 Feb, 2012 12:03 PM
Stupid article if ever there was one. How would they know? How would know who is married to who and who is gay and who is not? This is all just speculation. Homophobic speculation.
04 Feb, 2012 08:59 AM
16 million women married to gay men in China: Expert – In India, the figures are more alarming. Only in big cities like Delhi, Mumbai, Kolkata, Haryan and Chennai, there are more than 25 million Indian women married to gay men.
Most of these gay actually got involved in a marriage because of Indian family pressure. It is Indian cultures and values that men should marry as soon as reaching puberty. So much so, gay men quickly get married at arranged marriages, then find out their sexual orientation and then have to look for other men in the streets to engage in rear hole sex.
Gay men are aplenty in Sikh community where TOI recently reported many of them committing buggery in car parks outside restaurants by cross-state truck drivers to young boys of 18 years working in the closeby restaurants. The affluent gaymen in Mumbai often hide themselves inside closet and mate their friends at rear hole entry in private clubs and residence. Examples of which are Karan Johar, SRK, Sallu, Abhishek Bachchan etc…..
Douglas Glaston (Coventry) replies to Ramesh
05 Feb, 2012 11:58 PM
The social bias about marriage surely is one reason for gay men to mmarry women, but… the gender birth gap created by selective abortion has only make it far worse and far more unacceptable. If women are now so much fewer than men, of course they are likely and entitled to be picky. With new means like the internet they can discuss and unite and rally people. That has been foreseen by many people who were following India’s and China’ demography.
Both countries are now bound to live with the situation, which means : to find solutions. The idea that one solution to the gender birth gap would be for chinese men to happily join the army instead of finding a wife is just ludicrous. Looks like the IG-nobel “gay bomb”. Apoplectic demography…
04 Feb, 2012 07:32 AM
Some are naturally attracted towards the same sex but the majority of them are forced either because of the skewed male female ratio or because of the parental pressure to lead a double or heterosexual life. In fact, Chinese youths are forced to hire girl friends on festive occasions in order to please their parents.
04 Feb, 2012 05:58 AM
When I was in India I saw a lot of men holding hands with other men while walking along the beach (in Chennai). Does that mean they are gay?
C.A.Mathias (Southie, India) replies to Bob
04 Feb, 2012 11:04 AM
Bob, In India, china & Pak, closed friends, classmates, they know each other since many years, do hold hands, or put a hand on shoulders. That doesnt mean that they are Gays/Lesbs. Sure, there are Gay & Lesb community in India. Perhaps they remain in descreet.
Ankita (Pune) replies to C.A.Mathias
04 Feb, 2012 12:36 PM
utterly nonsense: this is not noticeable in Pakistan or China street scenes, but in abundance in Indian city streets ONLY. So, do not put the other countries together with our desi bhai-bhai love. Even in crowded buses and trains in Indian cities, men fondled the other passengers tight to take advantage with their hardened thrust into the others. You looked like a gay, too.
Heeralal (Delhi) replies to Bob
04 Feb, 2012 10:30 AM
Bob: They are gaymen in India more than anywhere else in the world. What you see in Castro, San Francisco, is nothing what you see in city streets across India. Indian men hold each others’ hands, arms, embrace, kiss, touch the other genitals and fondle openly, more so in India.
Some men are caught with their pants down in shrubs and bushes in gardens mating; most of them in doggie position. Then, in makeshift dwellings of tin sheds and tarpaulin huts in city streets, passerby often find four men’s legs extending out in the open because two men hiding inside mating in doggie position inserting one’s pole into another hole. This is very common in India. Gays exist in India since ancient civilization much longer than the West. all the posturings are depicted in holy scriptures and also on walls of Indian temples across Indian cities.
arif khan (india)
04 Feb, 2012 01:53 AM
gay should be killed on sight ,they are the disese of society.
anil (thiruvananathapuram) replies to arif khan
04 Feb, 2012 11:56 AM
Why kill them. They are not making any harm to the sosciety. They are innocent minded people.they are not throwing bomb in the in the public place and killing each other inthe name of religion.
Manbas Khan (India, Greater India) replies to arif khan
04 Feb, 2012 05:33 AM
Brother, why this hate because of someone’s difference? Where is the tolerance and peace? Do you know the sexual orientation of the inventor of the modern computer? The computer which you used to post this comment? I guess it is okay to exploit their contribution.
anith (kerala) replies to arif khan
04 Feb, 2012 04:26 AM
you said it to because of the influence of teaching got from the madrassa. Personly I PROMOT it atleast it bloack the most horrible thing in the modern world, rising of human population.
03 Feb, 2012 07:37 PM
This is what a communist tyrant government does to its men.
amphibian (earth) replies to Babu
03 Feb, 2012 10:45 PM
On the contrary in a communist dictatorship an important social problem is being discussed openly. While in self proclaimed democratic India the savagery and barbaric abuse of rights of women and other minorities continues, without ever getting their voices heard.
03 Feb, 2012 06:51 PM
The percentage of Homosexuals is same allover the world . Only the level of hipocrisy changes from country to country. Time has come to accept homosexuals and avoid homophobie.
Ajit Datt (Ranchi)
03 Feb, 2012 06:39 PM
Folks, lets treat this as a serious social problem. Before being confronted with such mind-boggling estimates, I always believed that gay behaviour constitutes a mere aberation, and hetro-sexual behaviour, the very foundation of society & of the survival of mankind, being the nonm. But such estimates, seriously undermine the basic pesumptions regarding the health & welbeing of the society, especially, as it seems that such estimates may grow rather than receed, as also may spread to other area, may be our own! This calls for a serious study of human sexual behaviour in our modern society, as also whether this is essentially an urban chracteristic ? Because the Chinese estimates do not explain the urban/rural divide.
Kalai (India) replies to Ajit Datt
03 Feb, 2012 07:02 PM
When results of scientific study have more than proven homosexuality is a gene defect and no human has control over what his sexuality is – you can believe or imagine whatever you want to suit your own bias/likes/dislikes. Studies have been done in many countries including China proving the above, then more studies just to please you?.
SCIENTIFIC Studies must be done i agree(it is being done and no effort is spared), but more of the same study just to please those who dont want to believe the already concluded studies?. As if homosexuality will spread from China to India, what rubbish. Homosexuals are already in India just like China, probably the same number as believed to be in China, homosexuality does not spread, it comes from within, it is creation and not ‘a making by a man’.
God has given us a brain and rationality, then why do people think irrationally i wonder, answer – ‘bias’, and what is worse we use God’s name to condemn homosexuality (God never said do this or that, that’s why we are endowed with a brain. Only if we destroy the world we live in and not treat it well and with care, if we kill fellow humans including women, discriminate against others, encourage a corrupt society because of which the common man is the worst affected etc etc- only then in my opinion God will be cross with us(just being reasonable)- so let us not justify anything we fancy in God’s name. Good is tangibly good, bad is tangibly bad.
Dinesh Patel (USA)
03 Feb, 2012 06:14 PM
Being gay myself, I agree with this statistic. I believe India has the same problem
chintu (pune) replies to Dinesh Patel
03 Feb, 2012 06:32 PM
then plz stay in USA
03 Feb, 2012 05:42 PM
I think we would find in India more gay men married to women.
Chadrashekhar Giri (Mumbai, Maharashtra)
03 Feb, 2012 05:07 PM
in india too guys merry & real men has no wife thats why there is lot lot of illigle sex relationship.
O shit (Shitland) replies to Chadrashekhar Giri
03 Feb, 2012 11:31 PM
Who’s real men by the way and who’s fake men? What is your definition of that? You pervert has no control over your pervert desires and then you blame society.
Imaran hashmi (Mumbai)
03 Feb, 2012 04:59 PM
Send them to India we will treat them well………..lolz
Jay (Surat) replies to Imaran hashmi
03 Feb, 2012 07:26 PM
send whom….gays or suffering womens 😉 I guess you mean womens….lols
03 Feb, 2012 04:49 PM
That is 16 million less than the chakkas in India whom Indian women are married to! LOL! In fact, most of these chakkas read chakka Times of India, full of chakka contributers! LOL!
Chris (mumbai) replies to Indian
03 Feb, 2012 07:05 PM
u r one of them….u also contributed a comment, bose DK,tu cutwa hi ho sakta he…
Indian replies to Chris
03 Feb, 2012 07:25 PM
Maybe, but at least I can get it up when a beautiful girl is in front of me, unlike an impotent chaprasi chakka like you, you low class chew-tiya. LOL!